Friday, June 12, 2009

Friday for real

As much as I love fiction, and fictional characters, I love real people too. From a distance, and with fear and fascination... I observe them. I find human beings fascinating. That is why I hold a graduate degree in the study of human behavior, and that is what compels me to write my character driven novels.

I am a stranger too. Read here if you didn't read that post. I don't much like to interact with people. I do it all the time, and I am good at it because I know all the rules... I just don't like it. I prefer solitude and simple pleasures. Like peaches and rain and the sweet scent of foreheads on those I love best.

It is the STORIES that compel me to go out into the world. I just love to hear people tell their stories. I find them all fascinating. What their kitchens looked like, where they lived, who their best friends were, their first loves, their biggest mistakes, their relationships with their parents. How their ancestors made it to this country (or how it was taken away from them). I love it all.

So I have decided to make Fridays all about the real stories people have to share. This one is about a woman who fought off cancer... literally. Click here to listen (or read) whichever you prefer. Then come back and comment. I am going to leave the first one. These stories inspire me, they make me think and sometimes cry. They give me character ideas. They make me feel, and feeling makes me a better teacher, and a better writer.


  1. That song... the Rocky theme, is always in my head when I have to do something difficult. What moved me here was how common things can be. I thought I was a bit nutty to hum that song in my head, but look where it got Dottie!

  2. I am a stranger, too.
    Thanks for linking your old post in this one.
    It's something that's hard for me to talk about, especially since I sometimes feel hypocritical for calling myself a writer. How can I write about people when sometimes I don't even feel like one? Nice to know other writers have similar experiences.
    Anyway, thanks again.

  3. TereLiz: I am finding a lot of us are like this. We observe. And I also find it has much to do with the kind of fiction we write...Welcome! I love your blog.

  4. People watching is my favorite hobby. I can watch a crowd for hours but I hate "reality TV", I only like fictional shows, which seems like an oxymoron. What are your thoughts on the reality TV phenomenon?

  5. Kate: Here is my humble, sociological opinion. Reality TV is fiction. It is more fiction than fiction. Now.. some are real. Like I used to watch the shows on TLC about women having babies. And the decorating shows on HGTV. Those are reality based... but the others are either fiction (real world and Real housewives kind of thing) or just another version of a game show (top chef, survivor... that kind of thing) I get more out of LOST than INTERVENTION, if you know what I mean.

  6. At least youth growing up in the era of "reality television" get a more realistic impression of people's appearance.

    I grew up before reality television in the "Beverly Hills, 90210" era when everyone on television looked perfect.

    I hope "reality TV" is helping teenagers today by offering them broader examples of beauty.

    ... but that's the only positive thing I have to say about Reality Television shows ;)

  7. Observation is a great skill. this post is a good reminder to slow down and do it more often. :-)

  8. I love character-driven stories the best as well. :D People are fascinating, I agree!

  9. People think I am a chatterbox, outgoing person. I am for them...for me, I too like the peaches, Spring and peace type of life.
    The story you sent me to read, touched my heart. As an ex nurse, I watched people fight for their lives, that is why I decided to get one of my own, and live it for all those who were in my life at sometime.
    Her story was moving and powerful, what a lady.
    Thanks for sharing :)