Saturday, January 29, 2011

When you leave


Dear Almost Seventeen Year Old Daughter,

When you leave, do me a favor and take all your crap. You know, the clothes all over the floor, the monthly emotional baggage, the snow globes, the piles of books and papers. Pack them in big boxes and put them in a U-Haul because I'm not taking you to college.

Not me. I'm not even going to say goodbye because it's good riddance to all that crap, you know? So don't expect me to cry or hug you too long. Don't expect this next year and a half to be an easy ride. NOPE. Don't expect you'll get everything you want at the first hint of an unhappy sigh. Don't wait for me to sneak into your room after you go to sleep and expect to find me curled up next to you with my face in your hair, breathing you in.

Nope. Don't expect that.

Don't wait for me to make you any baked goods late at night, don't expect me to buy you everything you want at the grocery store. Especially that expensive POM (pomegranate juice)

What? It's in the fridge? Huh? No, you must be fooling yourself because I am definitely not going to fall into a million shards of glass when you go. I'll be busy. Doing.....

Um....

Go away already.

Where'd you go?

12 comments:

  1. I feel your "non" pain, I have one going off to college this fall as well.

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  2. Me too, my friend. My oldest is the same age and my sweetie said to me, "You know we only have a year and a half with her before she goes to college and, once they go to college, they never really come back."

    I told him it was the meanest thing he had ever said to me.

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  3. Today's economy? They have no choice but to come back. When my daughter left, I was fine until the next time I saw her. Then I was a crying mess.

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  4. My youngest son went off to college this year, and I was bereft for about a week. (Then I started to have fun) He came back for Christmas & New Years vacation and we traveled to China together to see his older brother, who's working over there. It was soo good to be all together again. We had such a blast that the day after my youngest one returned to college, he called us and said he missed talking to us. Now, the older one is back for a few weeks vacation from China and we are thrilled. If you have a good relationship with the kids, they will come back--and go, and come back, all the while getting more mature and building their lives. A wonder to see! Good luck with yours.

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  5. Oh Suze. I understand. Me too. And my babies are only three and seven :)

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  6. Oh golly gosh...I'm trying so hard not to think about the end of this summer when this happens for me. Only once did I let the idea really in...and when I did, the pain was physical. I know I don't have to tell you to enjoy every moment between now and then...and yet I feel the need to write it.

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  7. i am going home(at Starbucks) and call the 3 of mine and see if they will come visit me....

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  8. Letting go. . . not one of my strong points when it comes to our son. Rough stuff.

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  9. What a great way to tell your daughter how very much you'll miss her!

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  10. Ahhh, yes. My oldest is 47, my youngest is 41 and still, I long for more days of wishing they would "go away already."

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  11. "Where'd you go?" This line KILLED me. *sniffs* My kids are 8 and 5. If the universe had a pause button, I'd press it now.

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